Yes, you CAN have your cake and eat it too, when it comes to balancing out all your roles in life. Obviously it doesn’t happen overnight, and usually your own definition of balance shifts over time. How do you get there? You start by paying attention to how you spend your time. While you’re eating cake…obviously.
I recently had a coaching client who came to me because she was concerned that starting her new business was taking time away from her new baby and husband. “Jessica” was desperate for balance in this unfamiliar stage of life.
Together, we decided that she would start by mapping out A) her typical day and B) her ideal day. Then later, the plan was to spend some time working through how she could get from point A to point B; balance.
Two weeks later, something unexpected happened. She came to me raving about additional business opportunities that had fallen into her lap.
“What about the work/life balance you were striving for?” I said. “How will this affect your time with your family?”
“Oh, yeah! I forgot to tell you; It’s fixed!”
Through the simple exercise of paying attention to her daily routine, Jessica realized that she currently had the balance she was striving for; she just didn’t know it. She already had it all scheduled in, and she was following it, but she hadn’t actually noticed.
Once she mapped it out on paper, she was able to visualize how successful she had been with balance in the last several months. She just never felt it because her concerned mindset was clouding the actual facts. In her mind, having a baby and a business would certainly mean not being able to devote enough time to both, but in her case that wasn’t even true.
Now, she walks tall every day knowing what balance looks like for her. She can identify what causes things to get off kilter and she knows how to make adjustments to get back on track. Nothing changed except her own awareness.
Adjusting your mindset can bring you closer to living a balanced life. In this case, it was focusing on reality. You may not like your reality, but knowing what’s really happening is half the battle!
About the Author
Alisa Manjarrez is VP of Marketing at FocusVision, a market research technology firm. As an Executive Coach, she’s helped professionals reach their goals through accessing their strengths and setting intentions for growth. But this year she’s doing something different; she’s only working with women! Why? Read her latest epiphany.